Two years ago, I held a workshop with a colleague, emotions and their expression, which is the subject of how to be in relationship with each other, so "comfortable", "agile."
In the training of everyone at school we were taught many subjects, we have spent several theoretical content, we know a lot of notions, but we were not taught "The Art of Human Relations " or how to be with the 'other, so both the nourishing of the write-downs, of themselves, of others or the environment. This ecological environment can allow the individual to be in an environment ok for him, where he developed a healthy sense of self.
Let's see, some disclosure statement feelings.
1. Everyone experiences feelings.
2. Some people are not in touch with their feelings.
3. Each feeling has its somatic counterpart.
4. The feeling does not dissipate energy. Repression automatic feeling dissipates energy.
5. The denial of a feeling does not eliminate it.
6. The identification and acceptance of a destructive emotion, such as fear, tend to dilute it.
7. The identification and acceptance of a feeling place him under cognitive control.
8. All feelings are mixed, they are never pure.
9. It 's easier to change the feeling through changing behavior that change the behavior by changing the sentiment.
10. The institutions tend to fear and then to suppress feelings.
11. In human relations, communication of feelings is more important than rational communication.
12. It 'OK to feel whatever you feel, "It' s even OK, do not feel OK" (This is the first step to recover from compulsive or depressive reactions).
13. It 'OK to think, but a feeling.
14. And OK to do as you think and feel.
15. It 'OK to enjoy while you do, think and feel.
16. E 'Ok relax while you enjoy, do you think and feel.
HD Johns proposes a "ladder of feelings .
It is a path that allows the person to regain possession of their feelings, to maintain cognitive control over them.
We see the scale.
1. Get in touch with their feelings.
2. Identify the feeling. E 'Ok let "a space and a time to hear, to listen to the resonances of what is happening outside.
3. Bring out the feeling.
4. It 'OK to take responsibility to decide how to behave in the presence of this clear feeling. I can choose to verbalize, express, dilute or suppress feeling. In the latter case it is a deliberate suppression not to be confused with repression automatic.
Being in touch with their emotional life, through the intelligence emotional, is a resource that gives us the opportunity to move into a functional and agile.
to be and be there in agreement fluid between the self and the environment.
