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The Dilemma of Hedgehog or the right distance.




"A company of porcupines on a cold winter day, they shook neighbors, to protect , with mutual heat, and remain frozen to death ( Stage Symbiosis or Confluence).
Soon, however, felt the pain reciprocal of thorns and the pain forced them to leave again from each other ( Stage Differentiation ).
Then when the need to warm up took them back together again, repeated that other ailments, so that was tossed back and forth between two evils: the cold and pain ( phase of the trial),
This lasted until they had found a moderate distance from each other , which represented for them the best Location ( Stage Interdependence or object-constancy ). "
(A. Schopenhauer)


this story are retraced the steps of the life cycle of the couple - insert parentheses - of which I spoke in the post" couple, 1 +1 = 3: Instructions for Use. "
This story that the philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer says, in " Parerga und Paralipomena " has been taken by Sigmund Freud in "Psychology of the masses and Analysis of the Ego."
of this famous story in which there is the dilemma of the relational movement, the Gestalt therapy has made one of his organizational issues: the boundary that separates what is paradoxically unites in contact (M. Menditto). Thanks to the movement of contact / withdrawal human being moves in the report (I tie you / untied me to you). The contact boundary has two main functions: it protects, contains, what I recognize as belonging to me and put in connection with the meeting results other than me, with otherness.
This story - a metaphor it can be useful in observing the couple but also the phenomenology of being in the Report in other forms of human relationship (friendship, work relationships).
Through the experience of the two hedgehogs are the "right away" and just in the distance, which is not equivalent to separation, you can experience the epiphany of love.
E 'ability to inhabit the distance between himself and the other as if that activates and generates love. The desire of the attraction between the two engine partners, rooted in the lack (think Plato that in the "Symposium" said the second myth, that Eros is the Son of "porous" and "Penia," Ingenuity and Poverty), and whether kills himself kills the lack of desire.

readers I wish you all a happy Easter as the rebirth of the life and victory of life over death.