According HD Johns, American theologian and psychotherapist at the base of anger underlying the emotion of fear. The fear is the fuel that feeds the fire of anger. Fear is a response to a perceived threat in the form as protective of themselves. Behind every "incavolatura" you can identify the presence of a ' humiliation of one's self.
HD Johns, referring to ' Transactional Analysis, identifies four types of anger: Anger from frustration (IO - TU +), Anger by resentment (IO TU + -), Anger challenge (I - (Tu + ha, ha) Anger and Indignation (IO TU + +).
Based on the situations in which we live can be adapted to the environment or not "act out" anger.
It 's always OK to try, to feel anger, while not always act angry Ok. In that regard, the greek philosopher , Aristotle's Nicomachean Ethics, wrote: " angry is easy, all are capable, but it is not easy and, above all, not everyone is angry with the right person, to the extent right, the right way, at the right time and for good cause (1109th).
remember that the discharge does not free us from the wrath of anger, although it may be useful to download the accumulated tension, so safe for self and others.
In this regard a year, is to take the cushions and place them on a mattress. It hit with full force again, driving the air from the mouth with each stroke. It may be appropriate during this year to deliver a " NO! "with all the energy at that moment we Pull out.
react automatically to the stimulus that triggers the anger and decide to respond to the stimulus-tempered, is different: "The answer is the freedom to make decisions based on reality, rather than the act Automatch to reduce the pressure." It means putting the emotion of anger proventiente Child ego state, under the tutelage of the Adult ego state: "The answer is a decision by the Adult ego state, taken after assessing the child's feelings and values Parent .
means that the emotion of anger is felt and thought and then it is decided what to do with this kind of emotion in the environment. This means not be subject to the tyranny of anger, not by acting out their anger, but the owners decide what to do with this feeling into reality.
To identify the functional anger and learn ways to manage it, it is useful to refer to the Scale of Feelings, in the post "The alphabet of feelings, or agility relational" (21/02/2009).
HD Johns, in this context suggests an exercise :
When you feel angry / a, stop for a moment and browse these ten feelings of threat.
Which or what fuel your anger?
1) Feelings of anxiety
2) Feelings of frustration
3) Feeling of being overwhelmed
4) Feeling of being hurt
5) feeling of being excluded
6) feeling of being devalued
7) A feeling of disappointment
8) Feeling of being cheated (it is not right ...)
9) Feeling embarrassment
10) Feelings of violation.
remains a 'useful ways to use literacy anger assertiveness, which is the sister of adult anger angry acting out not to be stranded in the long run that may cost in relation to the other.
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